Divorce Mediation Do's and Don'ts: A Checklist for Success

Divorce mediation can be one of the most effective ways to resolve disputes without the time, cost, and stress of trial. But to get the most out of the process, preparation matters. Below is a checklist of do’s and don’ts to help you approach mediation with the right mindset and strategy.

Do’s

Do gather your financial documents.
Your attorney will likely request organized records of income, expenses, assets, and debts. The mediator and your spouse will need accurate numbers to work from.

Do think about your priorities.
Decide what matters most to you (custody schedule, keeping the house, retirement accounts, etc.) and what you are willing to compromise on.

Do stay calm and respectful.
Mediation is about finding solutions. Remaining courteous helps keep discussions productive and shows the mediator you are focused on resolution, not conflict.

Do listen carefully.
Even if you disagree, pay attention to your spouse’s perspective. Understanding their concerns can open the door to creative compromises.

Do consult with your attorney.
Your mediator cannot give you legal advice. Talk with your lawyer before and during mediation to make sure your rights are protected, and you understand the agreements being discussed.

Do be honest.
Hiding information or exaggerating positions will only stall progress and may damage your credibility if the case later goes to court.

Don’ts

Don’t come unprepared.
Showing up without the right financial information or an idea of your goals will waste time and money.

Don’t make mediation a battleground.
This isn’t about “winning” every issue. Approaching mediation like a trial can cause the process to break down.

Don’t dig in your heels on every point.
Flexibility is the key to settlement. If you refuse to budge, mediation is unlikely to succeed.

Don’t ignore the mediator.
The mediator is a neutral professional trained to help you find middle ground. Respect their process and opinions, even if it feels slow at times.

Don’t sign anything you don’t understand.
Always review agreements carefully and, if possible, with your attorney before finalizing.

Mediation can help separating couples save time, money, and emotional energy compared to contested litigation and trial. By following your attorney’s advice, being prepared, and remaining courteous, you’ll set yourself up for a smoother, more productive mediation session and a stronger chance of resolving your divorce fairly. Call the law offices of Magnuson Lowell PS 425-800-0572 today for a free case evaluation.

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