Handling False Accusations in Custody Cases

Few things are more painful or frustrating than being falsely accused of wrongdoing during a custody dispute. Allegations of abuse, neglect, or substance use can quickly change the tone of your case, and even impact your time with your children. Unfortunately, false accusations are not uncommon in high-conflict custody situations.

If you’ve been accused of something untrue, it’s important to stay calm, take the right steps, and protect both your reputation and your parental rights.

Why False Accusations Happen

False accusations often arise out of fear, anger, or an attempt to gain leverage in a custody dispute. Common motivations include:

• Seeking an advantage in custody or visitation negotiations
  
  
• Retaliation for perceived wrongs during or after the relationship
  
  
• Misunderstandings blown out of proportion or taken out of context
  
  
• Influence from others, such as friends or family encouraging one parent to “fight hard”

While false claims can be damaging, Washington courts are experienced in recognizing when accusations don’t align with evidence.

Step One: Stay Calm and Don’t Retaliate

It’s natural to feel angry or defensive, but emotional reactions can make things worse. Avoid contacting the other parent to “set the record straight” or posting about the situation online. Anything you say or do could be misinterpreted and used against you later.

Instead, focus on gathering facts and following your attorney’s advice before taking any action.

Step Two: Document Everything

The best defense against false accusations is thorough documentation. Start keeping a record of:

• All communication with your co-parent (texts, emails, social media messages)
  
  
• Your parenting time - keep a log of exchanges, visits, and events
  
  
• Witnesses who can speak to your parenting and your child’s wellbeing
  
  
• Any evidence that disproves the accusation (for example, receipts, photos, or location data)

If your co-parent makes repeated false reports, note each one. A pattern of false allegations can damage their credibility in court.

Step Three: Cooperate with Investigations

If a child protection agency or law enforcement becomes involved, cooperate respectfully. Even when the accusations are false, refusing to engage can make you look defensive. Be truthful, provide documentation, and avoid volunteering unnecessary information.

Your attorney can help you prepare for interviews and guide what to say, and what not to say, during the process.

Step Four: Work Closely with Your Attorney

False allegations require a strategic, evidence-based response. Your lawyer can:

• Request records and reports to identify inconsistencies
  
  
• Subpoena witnesses or professionals (teachers, doctors, counselors)
  
  
• File motions to limit or dismiss unsupported claims
  
  
• Ensure the court hears your side clearly and credibly

An experienced family law attorney understands how Washington courts assess credibility and evidence in custody disputes.

Step Five: Focus on Your Child’s Wellbeing

While it’s tempting to focus entirely on clearing your name, the court’s main concern will always be the best interests of the child. Continue to show that your priority is your child’s safety, stability, and happiness. Keep communication respectful, stay involved in school and activities, and avoid discussing the case with your child.

Step Six: Consider Professional Support

False accusations can be emotionally draining. A counselor or therapist can help you manage stress and avoid burnout. If your mental health is challenged, getting professional support not only helps you personally, it can also demonstrate to the court that you’re committed to maintaining stability and healthy parenting.

Being falsely accused in a custody case is incredibly difficult, but you don’t have to navigate it alone. With the right strategy, documentation, and legal support, you can protect your rights and restore your credibility.

At Magnuson Lowell, P.S., we’ve guided Washington parents through complex and emotionally charged custody disputes. Our attorneys understand how to counter false allegations effectively and prioritize your child’s best interests. Contact us today for a telephone 425-800-0576 case evaluation to see if we’re a good fit.